Counseling tips and techniques for emotional, mental & spiritual healing and growth.
In the process of making sense of our present, we will unconsciously make judgements about ourselves, someone or something else. We are our own Supreme Court Justice and will pass down verdicts when we perceive a rule of ours has been broken. Passing down a verdict is the second of three steps in the judgement process.
These verdicts are a combination of denying we have anything to do with anything. We accuse the other person place or thing about whatever concerning the broken rule. We blame someone or something external of us for the condition of our inner world. Finally, we craft assumptions about other people’s thoughts, emotions, behaviors, intentions, beliefs, etc.
When people get triggered, they usually get reactive in some way to some degree. We use our judgements to protect and then project an unresolved neurological wound within our nervous system. We defend our story to the bitter end to prove we are right to fight. The problem lies in the fact the trigger of the reactivity usually has nothing to do with the present moment. Does this sound familiar?