THE LANGUAGE OF
NEUROLOGICAL INTELLIGENCE®

AEO’s - AGENDAS, EXPECTATIONS AND OBLIGATIONS 

 

• AEOs act as rules we create to validate a belief associated to a value, like fairness or loyalty.  We assign AEOs for what needs to happen or not happen for a belief to be true or false.  Rules come in two forms: Green – boundaries for what we will and will not accept and Red – trying to control someone or something external of self. 

 

AI - ACTIVE IMAGINATION 

 

• Active imagination is the willful choice to suspend judgement and allow ourselves to believe in the make believe.  To actively imagine and let go of the present moment to use our conscious mind to communicate with our unconscious mind.   

 

ASSOCIATE AND ACTIVATE CYCLE 

 

• The third neurological cycle which shows how we react or respond to potentially triggering stimuli in the present.  If our unconscious mind senses some form of “danger” – real or imagined - we may then associate the present moment to an unresolved Core Identity Cycle and activate our nervous system.  If the cycle has a high enough energetic potential, we may experience when "Shift Happens.” 

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AUA – AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, APPLICATION 

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• The process of healing and growth follows a global path.  First, we need to have an awareness that something needs to change.  Next, is to gain an understanding of a strategy that gives us the greatest chance for success to achieve our outcome.  Last and most important is to apply the strategy with intentional repetition daily to engrain the new pattern.

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BELIEFS 

 

• Beliefs are mental models we construct based on real or imagined perceptions of experiences we have with ourselves and others.  Beliefs are formed from decisions we make when a reference and a meaning have been repeatedly associated to in times of elevated emotion.  Beliefs can motivate us to grow and contribute in powerful ways, but they can also act like a mushroom cap – a safe, covered space to keep us from growing and achieving. 

 

BSI - BODY SENSATION IMPRESSION 

 

• The BSI is the visual representation of a NUB.   The unconscious mind loves symbols, so we use active imagination and sensory data to paint a metaphorical picture of the body sensation represented by the NUB.  To do that, we describe the location, size, shape, color, temperature, texture, weight, pressure, vibration, etc. 

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CENTER FOR NEUROLOGICAL INTELLIGENCE® (C.N.I.)

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• The Center for Neurological Intelligence® is intended to invite and create a community of souls who have a desire to:

  • Heal their unresolvedness from the past and re-claim their original wholeness.

  • Learn about their inner world and stretch beyond the comfort zone of their current limiting patterns.   

  • Grow into the next highest version of themselves and achieve their desired goals.  

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• The Center is the portal for us to connect with anything and everything to do with Neurological Intelligence®.  This is where we will continue to serve others with our individual and couples coaching.  Soon, we will begin offering webinars and workshops focusing on the science of Neurological Intelligence® and the art of Re-Claiming Process®.  The Center is also excited to announce our coach training program for those inspired to help others by becoming certified as a Master Neurological Coach. 

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COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION 

 

• Similar to contingent communication for infants, compassionate communication is used when one person is triggered and the other recognizes the shift, does not make anything about them and compassionately holds space for the triggered person to regain equilibrium.  

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CONSCIOUS MIND 

 

• Contains everything within our present awareness.  We are consciously aware of approximately 10% of what is going on at any moment.  When we focus in the present, our conscious mind is aware, just as it is when you daydream or retrieve a past memory.  Our conscious mind is our strategist – rational, linear, strategic, logical, linguistic, and often referred to as left-brained.  We use our conscious mind to set goals for what we want to achieve and send instructions to our unconscious mind. 

 

CONTINGENT COMMUNICATION 

 

• Contingent communication describes how individuals collaborate, attune, and relate with one another. This process is related to how people receive and perceive others’ verbal and nonverbal signals, which affects the answer to the primary attachment question. 

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CORE IDENTITY CYCLE 

 

• The second neurological cycle encompasses the meanings we assign and the associated emotions to the perception of our impactful experiences early in life   Once the cycle is established, we may develop empowered or disempowered belief systems which may form our identity – who we think we are and how we fit into the world – based on reinforced associations.

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• This cycle may also be initiated in adulthood when we have impactful neurological experiences such as a divorce, financial ruin, death of a loved one, etc.   When this cycle is unresolved, it may lead to the creation of the Imago-Attachment Complex, emotional burdens and harmful family legacies. 

 

COVE - CYCLE OF VALIDATION EXPERIENCE 

 

• When we create a disempowered identity defined with limiting beliefs, we may condemn ourselves to patterns where we reenact and re-enforce a fear or shame belief.  Our disempowered identity is enveloped within a story which we defend and do not give ourselves permission to be wrong.  We unconsciously show up in ways, so the external world responds back to us to validate our beliefs.   We then figuratively go to the bathroom, look at ourselves in the mirror, point a finger at our reflection and say, “See! I told you, you are .................!”    

 

DABA VERDICTS - DENIAL, ACCUSATION, BLAMING AND ASSUMING 

 

• When a red AEO rule is broken, we may feel pain.  We are our own Supreme Court Justice, so we pass down verdicts.  We may deny we have anything to do with the problem, accuse and blame others, and assume other’s thoughts, feelings, and intentions without asking.  We become a victim to the rule and begin to punish the perceived offender.  

 

DDG - DISTORT DELETE GENERALIZE 

 

• As sensory input comes into our system, we distort, delete, and generalize the data.  This filtering of sensory input creates the perceptions that form our internal representation of ourselves and others.  

 

DEAL AND DON’T FEEL OR FEEL AND DON’T DEAL? 

 

• When we follow the deal and don’t feel pattern, our emotions became so intense at the time of the neurological wounding experience, we make an unconscious decision to cut off from our body so we could deal with the situation and the aftermath to make sense of it in some way.  Over time, we learn to live in our heads to stay safe, and we lose connection with our bodies.

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• When we follow the feel and don’t deal pattern, our emotions were so overwhelming at the time of the neurological wounding experience, we shut off our brain and are only able to feel the intense emotions and body sensations.  Overtime, when we sense uncertainty or danger in some way, our pattern is to go straight to the body and feel everything and not be able to deal with what is in that present moment.

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DISEMPOWERMENT

 

• An inner sense that you are negatively managing your life.  You resist taking personal responsibility to do your work in order to resolve your unresolvedness. You mindlessly manage your mind, usually living at the effect, meaning you blame someone or something external of you for the state of your inner world, your nervous system. You give your personal power away, adopt a victim role, believing you no choice. You may focus on what you DO NOT want and get you primal needs of significance and connection met in an unhealthy manner. You have an unconscious habit of using negative key words and phrases in your language or the narrative of your perception.

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• When challenged or triggered, you have easily shift out of your Zone of Tolerance into the regions of rigidity or chaos.  Your thoughts are “I” focused and your emotions are generally either sadness or irritation.  Your typical behaviors are to move away from or against others and your story is based on a narrative that you are a victim and you have NO choice.

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DNA PATTERNS

 

• At the Center for Neurological Intelligence®,  we use DNA as an analogy for a unique set of generational patterns.  These DNA patterns are inherited through gene expression and/or also passed down by watching, witnessing and adopting patterns of people of significance in our early life.  We classify DNA patterns as being either 1) Green – empowered and functional or 2) Red – disempowered and dysfunctional.

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EMPOWERMENT

 

• An inner sense that you are positively managing your life.  You have or are currently doing your work to resolve your unresolvedness.  You mindfully manage your mind to usually live at cause, meaning you accept absolute responsibility for your inner world, your nervous system.  You do not give your personal power away to anyone or anything external of you, knowing you are a participant and have choice.  You intentionally focus on what you want and are mindful to get your primal needs of significance and connection met in a healthy manner.  You are mindful of the key words and phrases you use in the language for the narrative of your perception.

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• When challenged or triggered, you mindfully maintain a wide Zone of Tolerance, you usually stay flexible and live in a state of flow.   Your primary thoughts concern the greater good and your emotions are generally positive with empathy and compassion for others.  Your typical behaviors are to move toward others and your story is based on a narrative that you are a participant and have choice

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EMOTIONS 

 

• Emotions are energy in motion within our nervous system that either flows, floods or gets stuck within the body. Emotions can be marked by strong feelings and body sensations.  The emotions can be positive, neutral or negative.  

 

ENERGY 

 

• The second component of the Triggered Protective Cycle.   There are two aspects to explore: body sensation impression (BSI) and nonverbal signals (NVS).  The energy we feel when stuck inside the boundary of the cycle can become our addiction to the neurochemicals involved.  

EWAS – EARLY WARNING ALARM SIGNAL 

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• When our nervous system associates and activates to unresolvedness within, we will feel a unique body sensation.  This sensation is usually felt in one of the lower chakra regions between the throat and groin areas.  This body sensation is the first indication that we are activated and is used as an anchor of awareness to awaken our conscious mind.  We then can employ a strategy to interrupt a pattern and re-evaluate the meaning we assigned to our perception.

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EXPLICIT MEMORY 

 

• The conscious, intentional recollection of factual information, previous experiences and concepts; can be divided into episodic memory and semantic memory. 

 

FID - FREQUENCY, INTENSITY AND DURATION 

 

• If the FID of the energy and information during and after an incident is high enough, we may experience an impactful neurological experience (INE) 

 

FOOD - FAMILY OF ORIGIN DYSFUNCTION 

 

• This acronym represents one of the ways codependency patterns begin with some form of childhood neurological trauma that is usually related to experiences with the immediate family.  

 

GAP 

 

• The amount of time, the space between a neurological stimulus and a conscious or unconscious choice.  The stimulus is represented by a body sensation one feels usually between the throat and groin region.  When we employ a strategy to increase the gap, we can re-evaluate the meaning assigned and change it, so we respond in an empowered way. 

 

GLENN-ISM - GISM 

 

• Glenn S. Cohen’s musings, metaphors, analogies, quotes, posts, sayings, etc. 

 

GPS - GRIEF, PAIN AND SADNESS 

 

• One of two powerful, negative energy fields.  These three emotions are one aspect of an emotional burden.  This burden forms a metaphorical anchor of energy that can get stuck within the nervous system

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HAVOR - HONEST, AUTHENTIC, VULNERABLE, OPEN AND REAL

 

• The standards of HAVOR are values which act as guides for how we show up for ourselves and others.

 

HIGH ROAD 

 

• When we choose to take the High Road, we are mindful to stay within our zone of tolerance and maintain a wide gap between stimulus and response.   We assign empowered meanings to our experiences, follow patterns that move us toward others, and enjoy the positive outcomes that result from our choices.   On this road, we can quickly come back to center after being triggered.  

 

HOME #1 – HOW OUR MEANINGS EVOLVE 

 

• In the first approximately eighteen years of life, we begin assigning meanings which builds references from our past.  This evolution of references can impact how we perceive and assign meaning in the future.  

 

HOME #2 - HABIT OF MEANINGS EVALUATION 

 

• In our adult life, we develop an unconscious habit for how we assign meaning based on the reference from the past and the unresolvedness of our Core Identity Cycle.  

 

HYPERAROUSAL – CHAOS 

 

• An activation of the nervous system due to a neurological event, that occurs when a person’s body suddenly kicks into high alert in response to stimuli and one's environment.  Typical pattern is shouting out with racing thoughts.

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• Symptoms may manifest as heightened anxiety, difficulty concentrating, irritability, muscle tension, rapid heartbeat, etc. 

 

HYPOAROUSAL – RIGID 

 

• An activation of the nervous system due to a neurological event.  This occurs when a person’s nervous system is over stimulated in response to stimuli and one's environment.   Typical pattern is shutting down with cloudy thoughts.

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• Symptoms may manifest as lethargy, inattention, depression, apathy or boredom 

 

IMAGO ATTACHMENT COMPLEX 

 

• Our unconscious strategy to form an attachment bond with an intimate partner who has similar patterns of the people of significance from our childhood who neurologically wounded us the most.  This partner then triggers us which acts as a mirror reflecting to us that which we need to resolve so we can re-claim our original innate wholeness.  

 

IMPLICIT MEMORY 

 

• Sometimes referred to as unconscious memory or automatic memory; uses past experiences to remember things without thinking about them.  Includes perceptions, emotions, body sensations, mental models, priming and procedural memory.  This memory has no concept of time or space and most importantly, if unresolved, can come back to us outside of awareness.  It retrieves us, we don't retrieve it.  

 

INEs - IMPACTFUL NEUROLOGICAL EXPERIENCES 

 

• Negative experiences wherein we perceive some form of real or imagined danger that activates our nervous system to a high level for a period of time.  INEs occur inside of us and are not always visible to others.  When an INE overly activates our nervous system, we may fire and wire in the energy and information of the experience into a lasting memory - neurological wounding.  

 

INFORMATION 

 

• Sensory data enters our system as energy and information.  The information aspect is filtered to comprise references, meanings, beliefs, language, and stories.  

 

INNER CHILD/WOUNDED ADULT 

 

• NUBs (neurological bundles) are referred to as the inner child who forms from 0-18 years of age, or the wounded adults that form from around age 19 to the present. 

 

INSECURE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT 

 

• One of three insecure attachment styles associated with an inconsistent parenting pattern.  Sometimes the parents will be supportive and responsive to the child’s needs, while at other times, they will be mistuned to the child.  This inconsistency might make it difficult for the child to understand what the parents’ behavior means and what kind of response to expect in the future.  The child might end up confused about his/her relationship with the caregivers, whose behavior sends mixed signals.  

 

INSECURE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT 

 

• One of three insecure attachment styles associated with the emotional unavailability of caregivers.  The caregivers do not necessarily neglect the child in general; they are present.  Nevertheless, they tend to avoid the display of emotion and intimacy and are often mistuned to the child’s emotional needs. Such caregivers are reserved and seemed to back off when the child reaches out for support, reassurance and affection. 

 

INSECURE DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT 

 

• One of three insecure attachment styles associated with childhood trauma or abuse.  The survival of the child depends on the caregivers.  The child knows that unconsciously, he/she seeks safety in the caregivers.  A problem arises when the source of safety becomes a source of fear.  If the caregivers show highly contrasting behavior, which is inconsistent and unpredictable, the child can start fearing for his/her own safety.  The child does not know what to expect and when his/her needs will be met, if at all. 

 

JDIC - JUDGEMENTAL, DEFENSIVE, IMPULSIVE, CLOSED-OFF 

 

• Disempowered reactive pattern when we go down the low road 

  • Judgmental in our assessment 

  • Defensive and protective

  • Impulsive with reactive patterns

  • Closed off to ourselves and others 

 

JERC DEFENSES - JUSTIFYING, EXCUSING, RATIONALIZING AND CAJOLING 

 

• The third step of the Judgement pattern.  Once an AEO rule is broken, we pass a DABA verdict and then we justify, excuse, rationalize and cajole to defend our disempowered story to prove we are right in order to validate our identity.  

 

KISS METHOD - KEEP IT SIMPLE, SCHMEGEGGE 

 

• The meaning of this quote is to remind people to try not to 'out-think' the process. 

 

LAW OF 80/20 

 

• In our journey, we abide by the Law of 80/20, wherein we strive for 100% and are grateful for 80%.  We are mindful to nourish the empowered 80% and manage the disempowered 20%. 

 

LOW ROAD 

 

• When we choose to take the Low Road, our gap is narrow, and we may easily stray outside the zone of tolerance into rigidity or chaos.   We assign a disempowered meaning to our experiences, follow patterns that move us away from or against others, and suffer the negative outcomes from believing that we do not have a choice and we are a victim.   When we take the Low Road, we initiate our Triggered Protective Cycle and erode your personal power.  

 

MAD COW Disease  

 

• This occurs when we assign a disempowered meaning that activates the dysfunctional pattern of codependency.  We feel a strong need to control, obsess, and worry about someone or something external of self.   We focus on the external because we do not want to face and deal with what is unresolved internally.   

 

MAP - MEANING ASSIGNING PATTERN 

 

• Our M.A.P. is comprised of our neuro-references and determine how we begin the process for assigning meaning to our perceptions.  Our M.A.P. creates and updates itself as our journey progresses in life.  

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MDT – MINDFUL DISCUSSION TECHNIQUE 

 

• This technique is a critically important skill to have successful communication regarding our perspectives, emotions, beliefs, values, needs/wants and our triggers.  

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MEANINGS 

 

• The process of making sense of our perceptions ends with the formation of what something means to us, about us or for us.   Our choice of meaning is our right which no one can take away from us.   It is the essence of living at cause and owning our personal power.  

 

MEL VALUES - MINDFUL EMPOWERED LEADER  

 

• Being present and non-judgmental while remaining centered and grounded   

• Feeling open and flexible with an abundance of love and acceptance   

• Showing curiosity and inquisitiveness while offering empathy and compassion   

• Feeling connected and vulnerable with a heart full of gratitude and appreciation   

• Having patience and perseverance while embodying confidence and courage   

• Focusing on health and well-being while honoring our purpose and spirituality   

• Bringing fun and laughter into our life while striving for success and adventure   

• Feeling energized and inspired while continuously focusing on growth and contribution 

 

MINDFUL BREATHING

 

• This tool has multiple applications.  The first is the 468 breathing technique where we inhale for 4 seconds, hold our breath for 6 seconds and intentionally exhale for 8 seconds.  During intentional exhalations, we release any negative emotions that we see, hear and feel dispersing into the air and disappearing into the distance.

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M&M TECHNIQUE – MONITOR & MODIFY 

 

• A strategy we use within the gap to ensure we widen it enough to where we are responsive to make choices that lead us to take the high road of empowerment instead of reacting and making choices that hijack down the low road of disempowerment.  

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NEUROLOGICAL CYCLES 

 

• The four cycles that make up the Re-Claiming Journey®.  Sensory Perception, Core Identity, Associate and Activate and Triggered Protective. 

 

NEUROLOGICAL INTELLIGENCE® (N.I.)

 

• Neurological Intelligence® is defined by the knowledge of our neural networks and the impact they have on our inner and outer worlds.  Neurological Intelligence® encompasses the educational aspect of the Re-Claiming Journey® and the experiential processes of the Re-Claiming Process®.

 

NEUROLOGICAL WOUNDING 

 

• When we are not able to express, process and integrate an INE – Impactful Neurological Experience, we may form a NUB – neurological bundle of energy and information of the INE which can fracture our inner world and get stuck, frozen in time within the nervous system.  

 

NEUROPLASTICITY 

 

• The ability of neural networks in the brain to change through active imagination. 

 

NEURO-REFERENCES  

 

• Reference of past experiences that contain simple words.  This begins the formation of meaning either positive or negative that is context related.

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• Examples include: Safe or Dangerous, Positive or Negative, Success or Failure, Pleasure or Pain, Abundance or Scarcity, Beginning or End, Worthiness or Unworthiness, Hope or Hopelessness, etc. 

 

NOTC - NEGATIVITY, OBSTRUCTION, TURMOIL, CONFLICT 

 

• The outcome of our interactions with self and others when reactive patterns are triggered and activated. 

 

NSI – NERVOUS SYSTEM INDEX 

 

• The NSI allows us to quantify and communicate the activation of our nervous system.  A scale of 0 to 10, where zero is the lowest level of activation and ten represents the highest level. 

 

NUBS - NEUROLOGICAL BUNDLES 

 

• Form when we are unable to express, process, and integrate an INE.  NUBs may become stuck, essentially fragmenting the nervous system’s mind-body interconnectedness.   INEs can alter the structure and functioning of our nervous system much like a computer virus invades and corrupts the software and hardware of the system.  

 

NVS - NONVERBAL SIGNALS 

 

• 93% of how we make sense of others communication.  Mostly unconscious includes - facial expressions, speech patterns, body language, energy emissions and breathing patterns. 

 

OCRA - OPEN, CURIOUS, REFLECTIVE, ADAPTIVE 

 

• Self-empowered meaning pattern of flexibility 

  • Open to evaluate without judgement 

  • Curious to understand before being understood 

  • Reflective to consider various perspectives 

  • Adaptive to stay centered and grounded 

 

PERCEPTION 

 

• A single unified awareness derived from sensory processes while a stimulus is present. 

 

PERCEPTION IS PROJECTION 

 

• When we have impactful neurological experiences, we may suppress, repress, or disassociate the perception and accompanying meaning and emotion.  Projection is an unconscious process where we perceive qualities in others that we recognize as our own and project our feelings onto someone else.  

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PODS - PERSONALITIES OF OFFENSIVE AND DEFENSIVE STRATEGIES 

 

• Protective patterns we create early in life to guard an unresolved, vulnerable neurological wound, a NUB. Defensive PODS are proactive and Offensive PODS are reactive.  We end up creating an antagonistic relationship with these aspects of self which creates inner conflict.  

 

PRIMAL ATTACHMENT NEEDS 

 

• The base needs of the nervous system that must be met for the system to remain flexible, centered and grounded.  The foundational needs are safety, certainty and trust.  The next layer is connection and significance.  

 

PRIMARY ATTACHMENT QUESTION 

 

• “Are you there for me, the way I need you, when I need you the most?  An unconscious question we ask ourselves which defines whether our Primal Attachment Needs are met.  

 

PRIMING 

 

• Priming is the implicit memory effect in which exposure to a stimulus influences response to a later stimulus. 

 

PRINCIPLE #1 QUOTE 

 

• “We accept absolute personal responsibility for our decisions regarding our thoughts, emotions, behaviors and stories.” 

 

PRINCIPLE #2 QUOTE 

 

• “The ebb and flow of how we generate, perceive and share energy and information determines the success of our relationships.” 

 

PRINCIPLE #3 QUOTE 

 

• “The primary purpose for relationships is to challenge us to grow, by living every day with the intention to learn, stretch, change, inspire and contribute.” 

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PROJECTION 

 

• The process of displacing one’s feelings onto a different another person, place or thing.  Most commonly used to describe defensive projection – attributing one’s own unacceptable patterns to another.  

 

RAM - RANDOM ACTIVATABLE MEMORY 

 

• The aspect of our mind that guides how we work unconsciously.  The unconscious mind has no concept of space or time, so a memory that is unresolved, is activateable.  When we associate and activate the unresolved, it may seem like it is playing out in real time.  

 

RCA - RESENTMENT, CONTEMPT, ANGER 

 

• The second of two negative energies associated with emotional burdens. 

 

REACTIVITY 

 

• Reactivity is the manifestation and projection of rigid or chaotic energy and information onto others and ourselves.  It is a defense against our own neurological wounding. 

 

RE-CLAIMING JOURNEY®

 

• The educational aspect of Neurological Intelligence®.

 

RE-CLAIMING PROCESS®

 

• The experiential aspect of Neurological Intelligence®.

 

RELATIONSHIP REALMS 

 

• The relationships we have with ourselves, intimate partners, children, parents, siblings, friends, and professional colleagues. 

 

ROLES 

 

• Patterns of personas and personalities we adopt or adapt in response to impactful neurological experiences and stress in our family environment.  

 

SAFE - SYNERGY, ACCEPTANCE, FLEXIBLE, EMPATHY 

 

• The outcome of our relationships with self and others when we are in a state of flexible responsiveness.

  • ​Synergy of our attuned communications, connections, and commitments. 

  • Accepting of ourselves, others, what was, is and might be. 

  • Flexible with our meanings, beliefs, needs, judgments, and responses. 

  • Empathy, understanding and compassion for ourselves and others. 

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SCAT ATTACK

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• When our unconscious mind perceives – real or imagined – that our Primal Attachment Needs of Safety, Certainty and Trust is being threatened, violated or ruptured, our nervous system will activate.  When the activation is high enough, we call it when “Shift Happens.”  When we have a shift happen, our system perceives our Primal Needs are under attack and we engage our protective patterns.

 

SECURE ATTACHMENT 

 

• Classified by children who show some distress when their caregiver leaves but are able to self-soothe themselves knowing their caregiver will return.  These children feel safety, certainty and trust with their caregivers and know that they can depend on them to return. 

 

SENSORY PERCEPTION CYCLE 

 

• The first of the four cycles which explains how we process sensory data and how that influences our perception.  How energy and information is transferred unconsciously during the wiring phases of childhood whereby we absorb energy, adopt information, and mimic behaviors.  

 

SIME 

 

• SIMEs are the primary tool used for conducting neurological surgery on self.  When we learn to quiet the conscious mind, we can access the unlimited power of the unconscious mind to reveal, release and resolve neurological wounds.  In addition, we also use SIMEs to imprint powerful directives to our unconscious mind to follow for our desired future.

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STIMULUS 

 

• A body sensation signal we feel usually in the torso region and is the early warning alarm that a neurological shift has occurred.  

 

TEA - TIME, ENERGY, ATTENTION 

 

• An acronym describing how we can show up to facilitate changes in our patterns. When we consciously choose to drink empowered TEA, we use our time wisely, manage our energy mindfully and pay attention to our focus in ways that bring us what we want.  When we consciously or unconsciously choose to drink disempowered TEA., we end up not mindfully managing our time, wasting our energy and focusing our attention on what we do not want. 

 

TEBS – THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS, BEHAVIORS, STORIES 

 

• TEBS are the pillars of our patterns.  We can identify is the pattern we are running is empowered or disempowered based on the evaluation of the components of our TEBS.  

 

THREE QUESTIONS OF EVALUATION  

 

• Each moment of every day we unconsciously ask three questions of evaluation.  Within a nanosecond, we ask:​

  • What is uniquely similar about this situation?  We look in our rear-view mirror for sensory data uniquely similar to prior experiences.     

  • What does this mean to me, about me, or for me?  Here, we choose language to explain the present.  We associate to our MAP in one of three ways:  

    • Something is happening to me (usually links to an external fear belief).   

    • Something happening is about me (usually links with an internal shame belief).   

    • Something is happening for me (usually means you have a neural pathway to mindfully evaluate the situation for your learning and growth).   

  • Am I safe or in danger?   We use the narrative assigned to a belief to answer this question, which determines if we consciously respond to the reality of the present or unconsciously react and activate the next neurological cycle.  

 

TRIGGERED PROTECTIVE CYCLE 

 

• The third cycle after we associate to and activate a Core Identity Cycle.  Contains the stories we tell and the energy inherent within the story.  This is our safe place, our comfort zone that becomes an addictive state with solid boundaries.  

 

UNCONSCIOUS MIND 

 

• The aspect of the mind that we are not conscious of in this present moment.  

 

WEAPONS OF CHOICE 

 

• Habitual disempowered patterns we default to when we become reactive.  These include verbal and non-verbal words, actions and behaviors. 

 

WHEN “SHIFT HAPPENS” 

 

• A term for when our nervous system has been triggered above an NSI 6.   In these instances, we may act out on unconscious impulses, and say or do things that have negative consequences on our life and relationships. 

 

WIRING PHASES 

 

• Three phases in which we adopt information, absorb energy, mimic behavior, and develop patterns that become complex in adulthood: imprinting (0-7 years), modeling (7-12 years) and social (12-21 years).   While each child is different, they all go through these stages at some point. 

 

ZONE OF CHAOS 

 

• When we leave the zone of tolerance and become hyper-aroused above an NSI 6.  Typical patterns include anxiety, hostility, emotional flooding, rage, hypervigilance, etc.  

 

ZONE OF RIGIDITY 

 

• When we leave the zone of tolerance and become hypo-aroused above an NSI 6.  Typical patterns include depression, shut down, stonewalling, disconnection, etc.  

 

ZONE OF TOLERANCE 

 

• Flexible state where our nervous system stays below an NSI 6.  We are adaptable and not easily triggered.